You cannot change what you do not see. Use this reflective protocol.
For one week, write down any strong desire that arises (e.g., “I want to skip work,” “I want to buy an expensive jacket,” “I want to be alone”). desirule
Notice when the old desirule screams. That discomfort is not a sign you’re wrong—it’s the sound of reprogramming. You cannot change what you do not see